When I melt, all is good

Give it a few minutes, and girl talk will lead to boys boys boys. Once in a while, someone will blurt out the age old question So, what do you look for in a guy?

Most of us probably have stock answers written on the back of our hands by now. It seems kind of silly because it would be impossible to find someone with the traits we mention and kick start a relationship with them. The answers are always the same anyway - I want someone who is funny, kind, smart, cute...

Instead, maybe we should be asking what do you want from a relationship? Although it is only a spin of the original question, it is at least something that we have 50% responsibility and control over.

In no particular order, some of my answers are:
- true love
- fierce loyalty
- open honesty
- electric attraction
- hopeless romance
- dizzying fun
- personal and mutual growth
- butterflies in my stomach
- for my heart to be touched the way Air Supply does (hahaha)

To be honest [as I always am], I created a blog just so I can confess that listening to Air Supply makes me melt.

I think I almost wet my pants

This is a white-knuckled-childlike-giddy-pants-wetting heck of an exciting time in life. Change is happening so quickly that we can hardly catch up with our own progress. Maybe it’s because our maturity is going through a growth spurt or that our minds are developing another dimension, but it feels like the world is a playground for people our age and I almost wet my pants just thinking about how fun this is.

We’ve spent the last 20 years or so in school developing our young minds. We learned about how things worked in science and how things came to be in history. Now, instead of nurturing our intellect, it’s time to turn our attention to our spirits – our being - whatever works for you. It’s time for us to figure out what matters to us and how we can dive ourselves into those things with open hearts.

Good freaking times. Brlaaaaaaatz.

No pain, no gain, no thanks.

I suppose you can judge a society by the mindset of its constituents. So what does it say about our society when we boast [rather than complain] about how little we sleep, how much overtime we put in, and how little time we spend with our family? This would nearly bring a tear to my eye if we weren’t so damn self-destructive. How do we let ourselves repeatedly fall on our own swords like bumbling dimwits?

An “easy solution” would be to blame the society. But easy – yes, solution – no. If we weren’t darn exhausted from working so hard, we would see that, as constituents of the society, we control it. By definition, it cannot exist without us. Unfortunately, we don’t take the time to look around and see how we’re letting our lives pass us by.

You can call me lazy. You can brand me a fool. But I still say to you that we have to take a united stand. With the spread of globalization, this will only get worse. This “no pain, no gain” culture will spread like wildfire. We have to see that what’s actually happening is “all pain, no gain”. I cannot function in an all work and no play environment. I want to be able to boast about seeing my kids grow up, writing a book, travelling the world, and winning curling championships with pride and I fully intend on doing so.