Please don't undermine me in my own car!
I was driving happily southbound on Yonge when I pulled into the turning lane to make a left on a side street just south of Steeles. There was a line of cars heading northbound that was stopped, waiting for the red light to change. As always, there were rude/incompetent drivers who blocked off the intersection. As luck would have it, there were a few people who stopped just short of the intersection to give me room to make my turn. Grateful for their consideration, I gave the courtesy wave. Everything was fine until Steve, who was in the passenger seat, gave his own courtesy wave.
This was not the first time he's waved along with me. This was also not the first time I've yelled at him for doing it. I felt that his wave undermined mine, as though he felt that he had better give the wave in case I don't for fear of appearing ungrateful. I have always given the wave and he's seen it on many occassions so my willingness to give it was not in question. Where's the trust? His excuse was that he was thankful too and wanted to give the wave for himself, rather than on my behalf. I argued that one wave is plenty to show appreciation and asked that he stop giving anymore in my car.
This may be worse than having my passengers shoulder-check when I change lanes. AARRGGHH!
posted by ehbaba @ 11:40 AM
9 Comments:
"I chim in with a - haven't you people ever heard of closing the ____ damn door!"
But I digress...
You assume that the benefit given was only for you, but I would point out that there may be others in the car who would benefit from the other driver's courtesy.
Why should ONLY the driver be allowed to be grateful?!
I was happy & grateful too, & I should be allowed to express it as well as you.
For example: if a group of us were waiting in a line & somebody let us go in front of them, should only the first person in line be allowed to say "thank you"?
If the effort benefited more than one person, then more than one person should be allowed to show their appreciation if they wish to show it.
That's it. That's all.
Aaaaaaaand break.
S.
I see your point of view, but taken to the extreme, I don't know if it's really necessary for each of the 150 passengers to give me a courtesy wave if I let a TTC bus in front of me.
I respect your view but passenger waving remains outlawed in my car.
I say you break up with Steve and date me. Not only will I not wave, I'll give the finger to anyone you wave to. That'll show 'em.
mike
Oops, I have a habit of shoulder-checking when i'm in the passenger seat. But that's only because i'm wanting to HELP the driver (When I'm the driver, I appreciate it).
Besides, i'm in the car too, I'd like to watch out for my own safety where I can. Its not that I don't trust the driver's ability, its just I'm wanting to do what I can to prevent any accidents.
The hand-waving is probably the same kind of thing. The passenger is just wanting to do what they can.
But i'll try to remember to not do it in your car! :P
-asuka
yea, it bugs me when passengers shoulder check too...
BUT, i have to say, i don't see a problem with them waving. you wouldn't expect a whole bus load of people to wave at you if you let them through......but wouldn't it be nice if they did? i love it when people wave. its like, whatever stupid thing they're doing, as long as they acknowledge it all is forgiven. but if they don't, then i'll be angry.
I guess I can better frame my reponse. It is nice (if not freaky) if 150 people waved at me. But if the 150 extra waves bugged the bus driver, I'd much rather get the one wave because my additional enjoyment would likely not balance out the the fuming bus driver's anger who felt undermined 150 times.
but why would the busdriver be angry? if your being nice meant all the 150 people get home faster, they're the ones who are ultimately thankful. maybe the busdriver doesn't even care.
oh man...let's all ride the red rocket and be happy!
enge.
Yea, count me in for the Red Rocket. I'm a pro at riding that thing.
-asuka
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