Engerla is a snob

Wait! No she’s not. That statement is a blatant lie. It honestly could not be further from the truth. So…why am I starting rumours and putting myself at the receiving end of an ass whopping?

To prove a point at someone else’s expense, of course! Enge is a close friend of mine and I thought I knew her pretty well until she got upset with me [in her quiet and barely detectable way] when I jokingly called her a snob. Although I was blunt and said it in a serious tone, I thought my sarcasm was obvious by virtue of the comment’s outrageous absurdity. Apparently, I was wrong. Because I am an overly honest and blunt person [to a fault at times], she took that comment as a sincere one. Still, I couldn’t understand why she was so upset until recently. What’s a little name calling between friends?

I walked what felt like ten miles in her shoes this past week. Although I am much better at dishing insults than taking them, I was especially sensitive to certain comments made to me recently [disregarding the fact that they came one after another, after another, after another…]. To make matters worse, I became upset at how upset I was. In fact, it got to a point where I had to sit myself down and think things through.

Why the heck was I being so touchy? It turned out that it wasn’t simply because I was the butt of a few jokes. It was because they picked on things that were near and dear to me. I have set in my mind what kind of person I want to be and I strive hard to achieve that. When I was accused of being something I hated, I lost control. Engerla was upset because she dislikes it when people are snobby. So for me to associate her with that character trait was a slap to her face. If I wrongly [and jokingly] accused her of anything else [i.e. boring, annoying, etc.], she would probably just have pushed me to the ground and told me to shut the hell up.

Some learnings from this small ordeal:
- I’ve got to increase my take it/dish it ratio
- It can sometimes [but not very often] be good to overanalyze
- Enge and I are proud peoples